I know this is supposed to be advice (or at least my thoughts) on dating, relationships, and sex. What about when your relationship comes to an end? And not just any end, a crash and burn, massive car pile-up, train wreck, house fire of an end. We all know there are two kinds of break-ups, the mature-civil ones (that very rarely IF ever seem to actually happen) and then the other ones (see my above description).
Regardless of how it happens, break-ups SUCK ASS. And our friends who are supposed to be there to console us during these rough times sometimes only make you feel worse. Throwing cliches out there like “There are many fish in the sea” and “You have to go through the wrong ones before you find the right ones”. LIES. A bunch of bullshit. I’m not Nemo, I donʼt live in the sea, and I donʼt want to go through all the wrong ones. (Note: Usually the friends with these cliches havenʼt been in a real relationship since kissing Michael behind the monkey bars in junior high school).
Best way to get over a bad break-up? Time. (Or as someone JUST told me, “The best cure for old pussy, is new pussy.”) Depending on how long you were with someone, it could take a long time to fully recover. If you donʼt feel up to dating right away, then donʼt let your friends set you up on a blind date. The post break-up random drunk bar hook-up isnʼt always a good idea either. Then youʼll just wake up with a hangover laying next to someone you canʼt remember their name and still depressed.
What Iʼm really saying is tell your friends to go scratch. Self-loathing will only make you feel worse. Keep your day to day routine. But ALWAYS make sure that if you break-up that itʼs for good, because once you end it if you try to go back it will never be the same.
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